He doesn’t write, he doesn’t call. I wonder if our first meeting was good. Did I have spinach between my teeth?

Did I wear the right clothes? Did I dominate the conversation too much. I wanted him to get to know me, but did I ask enough questions about him and his job?

I sit by the phone waiting for it to ring. I check the dial tone, everything’s good there. I check my e-mail . . . nothing.

I’ve been trying to get friends to set me up. I’ve met some nice guys, but nothing’s clicked.

Maybe, in the immortal words of the writers of ‘Sex in the City.’ he’s just not that into me.

And I thought dating was bad . . . but, job hunting is worse.

For the life of me, I feel like a constant pursuer. I call, I e-mail, I write letters!, and I visit. I dress up, act nice, give compliments. Dating, was never a problem, men respond to the above. Potential bosses, however, I can’t get a rise out of them.

And I’m even getting better at taking rejection. Many of my single friends have turned to on-line dating. They have match.com, I have monster.com. Dating, is easier, I think. There seem to be an infinite number of eligible people to meet. Jobs, however, are a lot scarcer. If you and another person decide to date, you can have a one on one relationship. Interviewing is more competitive — duking it out against invisible rivals — and in a capalist country — those rivals can number in the hundreds.

Single friends, take heart, dating is a lot easier.

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