Oddly, I don’t think of myself as one of those pathetic women who says yes to every request asked.  Yet, I’ve realized lately, that people only call or e-mail me when they want something.

Not a day goes by without some request.  Can you?  Shouldn’t you?  Will you?  Of course, you’ll . . . .

Despite what people may think, I try to be a nice and accommodating person — especially to make up for the fact that on most days, I don’t feel too nice or accommodating.

Now, I’m annoyed by the constant requests.  Did I put myself in this situation?  I’m not quite sure.  For several years, I have felt the need to reach out, to volunteer.  Given my lack of ‘career‘ success, I figured it was something ‘worthwhile’ I could do to fill my time.  But like rabbits or guppies, it’s multiplied faster than I imagined.  I’m getting e-mail from the ‘thousand points of light foundation,’ for goodness sakes — and I know I didn’t sign up for that one.

Like I’ve done many times in my life, I’m looking to redefine my relationships with people.  If you’re asking me for something, I’m saying no.  I’ve even officially resigned from my two main volunteer organizations.  You should have heard the cries . . . ‘what? I can’t rely on you do be at our beck and call?

I’ll sit back.  I’ll think.  I’ll reevaluate.  And who know?  I may be calling and asking you for something.

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